Sexless Gay Relationships

By Max Roberts

I have known some couples for years that do not have a strong sex life. Matter of fact, I know one that doesn’t have sex at all anymore. You might be saying to yourself, how can that be? We are gay and gay men always want sex!

Well. it is possible for an asexual to fall in love and cherish someone without wanting sex with them. Unlike celibacy, which is a choice, asexuality is a sexual orientation. Asexual people have the same emotional needs as everybody else and are just as capable of forming intimate relationships

Asexuality, according to Wikipedia   is the lack of low or absent sexual attraction to anyone, Asexuality is distinct from abstention from sexual activity and from celibacy which are behavioral and generally motivated by factors such as an individual’s personal or religious beliefs. Sexual orientation, unlike sexual behavior, is believed to be “enduring.” Some asexual people engage in sexual activity despite lacking a desire for sex or sexual attraction, due to a variety of reasons, such as a desire to pleasure themselves or have an attraction to being romantic.

Romantic attraction vs., a sexual attraction is very real.  The love is there and everything about his partner , but he does not want the physical act. The hugs will be there and maybe even the kisses. I can see how it might be hard to understand, but he can absolutely love his partner. Asexuals can have a sex drive despite not having sexual attraction. They will occasionally masturbate and not want to share that small , intimate experience with his partner. It is just enough for him. Sex maybe just too draining for him mentally and / or physically. One should never beat themselves for thinking that it is them because they are not attractive or sexy enough. It’s just a lack of interest in the activity itself and nothing more. But one must accept the fact that they may not have sex with their partner.

Communication is very important before the relationship begins and during the relationship .

Readers can get more information from Aven (Asexual Visibility and Education Network).  AVEN hosts the world’s largest online asexual community as well as a large archive of resources on asexuality. AVEN strives to create open, honest discussion about asexuality among sexual and asexual people alike.