Life Sucks Being Gay Over 40! (Or does it?)

Life Sucks Being Gay Over 40! (Or does it?)

By Jay Stewart

If we are to believe what we read online, see on television and film, and overhear in coffeehouse chatter, then it appears that life sucks being gay over 40. The bills are piling up, the hairline is receding, the belly exceeding, and of course, the sex is non-existent. If we were to believe a word of this, we’d likely be heading to the nearest cliff with a large rock tied to our feet and taking the plunge. The great news is that we firmly believe that all that negativity is a waste of energy. To all those that believe that being gay over 40 is the pits, we’ve got some excellent news for you. It’s not the time for doom and gloom, it’s the time to celebrate and love. Let us explore ways to let go of any negativity surrounding being gay over 40 and embrace nothing but the positive aspects of it.

Toss away the emotional baggage

Our wardrobes require an annual cleaning that involves tossing away the clothes that you never wear and the items that are no longer complementary to our present style. Emotionally, one needs to toss away any baggage that isn’t assisting us either. If you’re in your 40’s and believing in the negativity, we are insisting that you perform a cleanse from it all. Look at your life and the areas that you’re not confident in. Who are you blaming for it? Is it your age? Have you simply given up? Are you too old to have all that you wanted? If so, toss away that baggage right away! You can and will get everything that you want. The first step towards getting it is removing the negative thoughts that exist within your life.

Internalize your happiness instead of externalizing it

As you read this article, are you doing so on your brand new smartphone or computer? Are you surrounded by expensive furniture? Are you sipping on an expensive cup of free trade organic coffee blend? If you have all this external wealth, but still living with the mantra of ‘gay over 40 sucks,’ then it’s time for some introspection. Surely, you need to admit that the external pleasures aren’t leading to internal happiness. It’s time to reflect on the core of who you are. This core self may require some digging to discover. It may involve reminding yourself what you really wanted when you were younger. Did those hopes and needs disappear over time? Did you choose the leather couch over personal happiness? If so, there’s no time like the present to reconnect with your internal core.

Create a positive social network

Too often, we believe that we’re simply too old to make a new friend. Erase that thought immediately! Life is filled with endless possibilities and connecting with new and positive people is just a conversation away. Look at your present social network and recall how you met each of them. Some through friends, some at work, others out at a bar, and some from a simple conversation waiting on a cab. Be open to meeting new people and put yourself out there too. If you only stay at home watching Netflix every night curled up in your favorite blanket, then you’re not going to meet anyone new. Better yet, ask yourself why you are doing this. Is it that you don’t enjoy your present circle of friends? If so, it’s time to get out there, meet new people, and create a positive social network.

Never too old to try new things

Growing up, you may have mistakenly believed that turning 40 meant that life was over. You believe you’ve already tried and done it all and now it was time to disappear into a life of monotony. False, false, false! What a ridiculous notion! You can surely decide that you’re too old to do anything, but you don’t actually have to do such a preposterous thing. Make a list right now (don’t delay it) of all the things that you’ve always wanted to do. Don’t judge it, just let the list flow naturally. Aim for at least 10 items, but don’t limit yourself to that amount. Take some joy in making this list and you’ll start to see that being gay over 40 doesn’t have to suck at all. There are tons of new things that you can do to ensure that life is truly awesome. Now, with this list, select 1 of them, and make a plan to make it happen. Don’t think of all the reasons why it won’t happen, just make it so. Let others know of this goal and you’ll be surprised at how quickly it’ll come to fruition.

Recognize that there are many years to come

Are you aware that the average male lives to be at least 70 years old worldwide? If you’re thinking that life sucks for those that are gay over 40, then you’re going to be holding onto that thought for A LONG TIME! How exciting to truly realize that are lives are not even close to being done. If you thought that you couldn’t return to school, there’s still time. If you considered travel to be out of your reach, it’s simply not true. You have a ton of years left to live and they have the potential to be absolutely amazing. You have a lot of time left to meet the love of your life, grow old with them, see the world, save up for that dream purchase, etc.

The next time you encounter the statement, ‘Life Sucks Being Gay Over 40,’ simply chuckle to yourself. You don’t need to challenge that individual’s thinking through your words, do it through your actions. Show them the true happiness that you’ve discovered in being your age. Demonstrate to them that you live a life without negativity and surround yourself with individuals that exude positivity. Let them see that you know there’s so much life left for you and you’re not going to spend a moment existing without a smile upon your face.

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Did You Know?

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To get serious results, one may need to make an investment in themselves for an  ultimate transformation.

Many of us at our age  are driven by a deep knowing that we were born for a certain reason. Maybe, you feel that your life is not totally fulfilled yet , and you have  decided that you don’t want to waste your time anymore. If not now, when will you actually lead a more fulfilling life or get help with a problem that you may have carried with you for over 20 years? But  your heart and soul must be invested in the process in order to be effective. If you’re not ready to take bold action, please wait until you are before hiring us..

If you’re ready to age forward and begin your own transformation and your heart and soul are saying, “ Lets Do this!” ,  I hope you’ll take the leap with us and contact us at will@gaylifeafter40.com