Freeing Your Self-Esteem

Freeing Your Self-Esteem By Ramon Johnson

Why does he have a man and I don’t? Am I single because there is something wrong with me? These questions float in the heads of singles everywhere who wonder why they have yet to find a man.  Life isn’t a sitcom where dates walk in on queue. Dating is hard; it takes persistence.  And if you prefer quality over quantity like I do, then dating also takes the patience of the gods.

Where many singles go wrong during their search for a man is associating their relationship status to their sense of self-worth. Single is not synonymous with unsuitable and coupled doesn’t always mean content.  So, free your self-esteem.  Try not to base your self-esteem on the number of messages in your inbox or the fact that you have yet to find a man.  An empty box doesn’t mean you’re any less of a catch.

You have to be the master of your own confident self.  If you don’t believe in your worthiness, no one else will. Instead of knocking your sense of self-worth down each time you strike out, focus your energy on starting new conversations with new guys.  It’s not a reflection of you as a person if he doesn’t respond; there simply wasn’t a match. Keep your spirits high, regardless of your dating activity and move on.  Men love other confident men with a solid sense of self-worth.  Let yours shine.

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Ramon Johnson

With over ten years experience in digital journalism and new media field, Ramon has dedicated his career to advance the equal representation of disadvantaged and underrepresented peoples.

Experience:

In 2008, Ramon was named ‘GLBT Person of the Year’ by GayAgenda and in 2009, Gay Life at About.com was selected as ‘Best Gay Lifestyle Blog’ by BestGayBlogs.com. Ramon was regular speaker at youth diversity organization Live Out Loud Reciprocity Foundation, and a youth mentor at The Ali Forney Center, an LGBT homeless youth service organization. He was named one of Clik Magazine’s 25 Most Influential Gay African-Americans in media for his contributions to the LGBT community and has been a guest gay lifestyle expert on Proper Television’s “TV Made Me Do It,” Q Television’s “On Q Live,” “The Derek and Romaine Show” on Sirius Satellite Radio and New York’s Power 105 morning radio show