Don’t Should On Yourself After 40

Don’t “Should On” Yourself After 40 By Jay Stewart

There’s nothing worse than getting older and reflecting negatively on the years that have passed.  Instead, let’s start living the life that we want.  One where we no longer have fantasies, but instead we live the reality that we deserve.  We don’t daydream about a better job, a faster car, a larger home, and a hotter partner.  From this day forward, I implore you to join me in being the person that you want to be.

  Gentlemen, I ask that you accept as your new life motto, “Don’t should on yourself after 40.”  This means living a life where you free yourself from the should’ve, could’ve, and would’ve statements from your vocabulary. 

 Let’s start with an easy one – don’t should on yourself after 40 about a better job.  I should’ve quit my job.  I could’ve had a better job.  I would’ve been better off changing careers.  I want you to take a good look at your present job.  What do you like about it?  How does it fulfill you?  Once that’s out of the way, see if there’s a better job out there for you.  Apply for a few jobs that are of interest.  If you get an interview, check it out, and see if it’s for you.  It may lead to a better job that makes you happier.

Don’t should on yourself after 40 about getting a faster car.  I should’ve bought outright instead of leasing.  I could’ve been driving a convertible by now.  I would’ve been happier in a nicer car instead of this economical one.  Who’s really the one behind all these thoughts?  Are they your own?  Or are they your parents, your ex’s, your friends?  If you’ve always wanted a race car, then why can’t you have one?  It’s your money, your credit, and your life.  You’ve spent 40 years plus living it for others.  Now it’s time to live it as you please.  You can even rent the car of your dreams for a few days.  Test it out and determine if it provides the life that you desire.

Don’t should on yourself after 40 about investing in a larger property.  I should’ve invested 10-20 years ago in a bigger place.  I could’ve been living in similar digs to my friends.  I would’ve been hosting parties that were talked about for months.  Stop thinking and start doing!  You can’t change the past, but you can impact your future.  Aren’t you tired of spending nights thinking about your new place?  Now is your opportunity to be less about the talk and more about the action.  Trust me, your friends are tired of hearing you complain about your place.  Everyone (especially you) will be grateful to you for going forward and getting the house that you’ve always wanted.  Call up that realtor friend of yours and see if you can get into that larger property within a few months.

Finally, don’t should on yourself after 40 about getting that hotter partner.  I should’ve given that guy my number.  I could’ve made the first move with my best friend.  I would’ve been happier sleeping around instead of staying in that long-term relationship.  One or all of these statements will likely ring true for you and/or your friends.  Guys and Gals, we need to recognize that a happy life involves a happy sex life.  If you’re looking at your life right now and it involves only self-pleasure, then get real with yourself.  How’d this happen?  What’s holding you back?  If you have a present partner, is it really going how you want it to?  If not, talk to them and try to work it out.  Take your partner to a sex workshop and rekindle your love life.  If you’re single, then accept your age and own being that older guy or Gal at the bar.  Trust me, you won’t be the only one.  Once at the bar, approach whomever, you’ve got nothing to lose.  Ask that cute twink to dance.  Walk up to that muscle dude or veracious gal  and offer to buy him / her a drink.

At some point, you need to recognize that it’s your life to live.  It’s not your Mom’s, your partner’s, your best friend’s – it’s yours!  You decide where you work, where you live, what you drive, and whom you love.  Take a deep breath and get real with yourself.  Are you happy in these 4 areas of your life?  If not, agree to make the change today.  Remember this simple new life motto, “Don’t should on yourself after 40!”

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