10 Essential Ways to Sweep Your Man off His Feet

By Josh Jacob

When looking for a man or improving your relationships, most guys over 40 tend to look outside of themselves, on dating sites or at bars or at their partner. But the truth is, you will sweep a man off his feet when you focus on yourself. Here are ten gay relationship tips that you can do on your own to get men really interested in you.

1. Get a few recipes under your belt

When you learn to cook a few good healthy recipes you will make the perfect date partner. You just need to practice a couple of times and get them just right so they are delicious. When you can do this, you will always have these secret recipes under your belt.

When it comes the time to picking a date, you will be able to cook him a really special dinner. Although you have only practiced a couple of recipes, it will make you look like a master chef and you will surely sweep him off his feet.

2. Take nutrition seriously

Learning a few recipes is just the start. Start to take nutrition seriously because it affects everything about you, even your self-esteem. When you eat right, you look good, feel good and lose weight. Learning nutrition takes some time, so take it one step at a time. Learn what calories are, how sugars break down and what foods provide what nutrients.

When you take care of what goes into your mouth your man will notice and will be truly impressed. On top of that, you will have clearer skin, you will start to lose weight and your confidence and self-esteem will go up. Learning this stuff will take some effort on your part but you can do it from your computer and it’s vitally important to your health and wellbeing. When you take care of yourself like this, your man will notice and want to take care of you as well.

3. Work on your self-Image

The way you talk to yourself and see yourself is extremely important when finding a man. If you think of yourself as lazy and unmotivated and depressed, then everyone else will see you like that as well. It’s very hard to find and connect with a man if he knows that you see yourself this way.

Start to work on your self-image by keeping a trim look. Shave your neck; get a haircut, trim your beard and work on your style. Go see a stylist and wear clothes that fit you well. When you look in the mirror you should be proud of what you see. Keep working on your self-image until you are happy with how you look. If you have skin issues then see a dermatologist.

If you have teeth problems then go to a dentist. Taking care of yourself will help you have a better self image and will develop a level of self respect that other guys will notice.

4. Be happy on your own

If you are lonely and sad being single then the chances are that a man will not fill that hole for you. Take this single time to find out what you love about life and living itself. Do you love walking or hiking, do you love learning languages or painting. Find your hobbies and your passions in life and when it comes to finding a man you will be happy already and he will want to be a part of your life.

If you are just lonely and sad and you don’t have any hobbies, passions or love for life, then why would you expect another man to want to be a part of that? Find your happiness in life and spend every day working on getting a little happier.

There are probably many hobbies and projects that you have started in the past but you never finished. Perhaps you liked painting when you were younger but you haven’t painted in 10 years. Well its time to get some art supplies and paint something again. Doing something that makes you happy on your own, will translate into your whole life. When your man sees that you are happy on your own, he will want to join your life and be with you.

5. Get a sweat on

You should get sweaty at least once a day. You can do this by jogging, lifting weights, doing calisthenics or yoga. However you choose to exercise, its important for your looks and personal wellbeing. When you sweat every day you are connecting with your body and letting your body cleanse itself in the most natural way possible.

Also when you work out daily you will eventually develop a love for it and the workout itself will keep you happy. There have been many studies that show working out increases happiness and longevity. When your man known that you are keeping fit, working out and you are happy to get a sweat on, he respects it and finds it extremely attractive. You could even work out together for some sweaty fun. When you respect yourself like this and work on your body, your looks and your happiness, your man will be swept of his feet and want to be with you.

6. Shower Daily

After getting a sweat on it’s a good idea to shower. Even if you don’t workout that day though, you should still shower daily to stay fresh. You never know when you might bump into someone and you want to be clean and fresh when you do.

Personal hygiene and cleanliness has been rated as one of the top reasons why people are attracted. Staying clean is not only important when finding a man, but also to feel good and develop your self-respect. If you spend most of your time laying around in your own filth, then how can you expect to develop self-love and respect?

Find out the best time for you to shower. For some it’s the morning, for some it’s the evening. Many people shower twice a day just to be sure they are fresh and clean all the time. When you take care of your personal hygiene like this, your man will notice the beautiful aromas emanating fro your body and he will want to be all over you.

7. Develop Self Esteem

Every step so far has led to this one. When you take care of yourself, your nutrition, your exercise, your cleanliness and your image, you are slowly developing self-esteem. Now its time to take everything you have done and keep on going. Developing your self-esteem takes time, especially if you are coming from a low place.

Read “The 6 Pillars of Self Esteem” to learn what you need to know about developing this area, or read “The Psychology of Self Esteem”. Both books are by Nathaniel Branden and can help anyone develop self-respect, self-responsibility and self love. Visit our own Gay Life After 40 Self Esteem Series by Steven Reeder to better understand yourself in a gay world. .

Even if you think you are in a good place, having more confidence and self-esteem will always help you when finding a partner. Your man wants to know you are happy and stable and living a good life, so that he can join in and be a part of it.

8. Get out more

While you are developing your self-esteem and working on yourself loads, you need to go out and share it with the world. Start by going out to places that you like, or just by walking around your area. Go into shops and interact with the shopkeepers and be friendly and polite to everyone. You can get out on your jog, sit in the park with a book, or visit a museum or other places that make you happy.

Remember you want to be happy single, so go out and enjoy yourself in any way you can. Go to festivals and street parties and try to enjoy yourself. If you are more sophisticated then go to lounges or fancy bars and just experience getting out more. Turn off the TV and Internet and go out into the world.

9. Interact with strangers

While you are outside, start interacting with strangers. This may be hard for many people but it’s a critical step in developing self-esteem. The reason this is second to last, is because you will need all the other steps to make you feel confident enough to actually do this.

Talk to men and women, groups of people and anyone you can see. Any kind of interaction with strangers is good, even if you are just asking for directions. Try to talk a little more with some people, and ask questions if you are curious. Learn to act on your curiosity and talk to people no matter what your mind is telling you. The more you do this the more confident you will be, and when it comes to finding your man, you will be able to converse like a superstar and sweep him off his feet.

10. Develop Your Social Bonds

While you go out and practice talking to strangers you are slowly developing your social skills. Now you are able to develop your social bonds while you go out. Do this by talking to men and women and building connections. Don’t just talk to men, thinking that you could find a partner that way. Talk to women as well because women will know lots of other men that are potential partners for you.

As you talk to people and develop your social bonds, you will be in an extremely good place to find a man and sweep him off his feet.

All of these steps apply whether you are single or already in a relationship. When you are single and over 40 these are essential steps to finding and dating a man. When you are in a relationship, these are essential to being happier and connecting with your current partner. Wherever you are, these steps will make you and your man happier and give you a much better life. If you have anything that you would like to add, please leave comments below and subscribe to our newsletter.

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